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Hi Loosey Goosey - sorry to hear you sounding so stressed about everything. But, without wishing to be glib or unhelpful, what's the rush? Every month that goes by your birth children will be getting older, widening the potential pool of children that you might be matched with, and/ or enabling a larger age gap between your birth and adoptive child/ren, which will protect your birth children and make it more likely that the adoption won't disrupt. If it helps at all, 6 months to get you to panel was almost certainly completely unrealistic - from everything I read on here 9-12 months is more the norm, so yes, it has taken a few months longer than you'd hoped, but how much does that really matter in the overall scheme of things? As for how long you will wait for a match, no-one can tell you: it could be 14 months, it could be 2 years, it could be much more or much less than that. There's not a queue system - it is about you being the best match for a particular child. And, returning to my previous post, the older your children are, the more likely it is that SWs will consider you a good match. 'Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans'. Relax and enjoy your children - stressing about all of this won't make the time go any faster! LB

Sounds like a complete catalogue of errors and now a potential ongoing wait. No wonder you are frustrated, I would be too :-( I am not sure there's much you can do about the wait after approval, it may be pretty quick but you may wait for some time, all depends on the right match coming up. Still, you have my sympathy it sounds like a very frustrating journey to get to this point. X

I can completely understand where you are coming from. We had a long complicated road to get to approval and matching by which time we had been pursuing adoption for 3yrs. When we were finally due to go to panel in jan it was delayed every month until june. I despaired of ever getting there and it was hard when everything was out of our control. Delays were not caused by us and it was hard to keep building up to a panel date to then have it put back each month. We are now matched with our gorgeous 2yr old and awaiting our adoption order. With regards to matching it seems from these boards that many people who expected a long wait have been pleasantly surprised and matched quickly while others who seemed in a more straightforward position have had to wait so i dont think you should worry about that. If i was you i would concentrate on approval and deal with matching after that Hang in there Keep venting and good luck.

The LA appear to be in a mess. It takes as long as it takes but what concerns me most is that you've been taken on but they are now saying it's unlikely you'll be matched because you have two birth children . Weren't you told this from the start and why have you only been told this now?