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Oh right, sounds complicated.

yes it can be complicated

Hi,

The social worker has responded saying that they don't do network meetings in the midlands ?

Ah ok thats a nuisance did she recommend where to meet others from the Barnardos family or do you have find your own network friends on here

She didn't say anything else, its like trying to get blood out of a stone ?

haha that aint good

Nope, but never mind at least we can use this forum and join webinars.

definately i joined the forum to socialise with other adoptees that hopefully live near me for when i get our child there are webinars and meet ups

Good idea, I hope that works for us too. We are in contact with the other adopters from our prep training but they are all very busy people.

With Barnardos i found the ones we met live to far away really i have a few that i have made friends with but one only got her child in may it was quite handy as she lived 10 miles away and thought we stay in contact when i have my child but i have the impression she just wants to be left alone i was in contact with afew from training and we started a whats app group too pilotely put it didnt work out and dont really talk to many of them anymore it got too much

Yes its the same with us too. I set up a whats app group and yeh its not really worked. But never mind. At least hubby and I have each other.

Exactly thats what i say to myself and i find building a network of friends on here and other forums is better really with the training lot you are going through the same but everyone is at the same stage and can be overwhelming to start with the process

i have a couple of friends that met on another forum one is a close friends friend we bumped into each on the forum small world and the other one is prob 5 miles away from us that i met also through another forum so i am gradually meeting others i hoping this forum will help to find more people in my area and it dont matter if i dont its good to find others that going through the same experience as what i went through and what we are going through now i happy to help others with there journeys

Hi Mrs_Bakes,

We do have community groups in the midlands ,but due to Covid face-to-face meetings have stopped. We have our weekly prospective and members virtual meet ups and our webinars. I would also recommend reading as much as you can and starting a reading list - build up a ton of evidence that you have done and are doing as much as you can.

Best wishes,

Charlotte

Hi Charlotte,

Thanks for your reply, really appreciate it.

I have already joined in with a couple of the webinars. The first one I did was for prospective adopters and I enjoyed it. The second was for all members and I felt very out of place as everyone else had already adopted or was adopting again. I guess i need to stick to the prospective adopter ones.

I keep a log of everything we read/do and I have loads of books on my Amazon wishlist. I have a reading list from Barnardos and Coram Baaf.

Thanks for the tips!

Charlotte

i know what you mean but the adopters have all been through it i went to meet up yesterday online and got quite alot out of people that have adopted i am inbetween i am prospective and an adopter I think i am going to another meet up online tomorrow and see which one suits me better prospective this time

The one I didn't enjoy was fine until two adopters joined and it basically it became a conversation between them and the host. The rest of us were just sat twiddling our thumbs. I gave up after an hour.

i would give another one ago and see how you get on, with me i would rather let everyone do the talking carry on i say hahaha the ones i do from the area are busy so i thought for me it was idea to do these meet ups and if all fail i have friends and family that have been through the process with me that i can talk to