Hi,
My 6 year old adopted daughter came out of the swimming pool with scratches on her hand that looked like nail marks. At the time she spotted them and she was genuinely shocked to see them. I could not work out at all how she couldn’t know they were there til she saw them! I took her home cos it was after 6pm and she needed tea. I was puzzled. I wondered if I’d accidentally caught her with my nails but there’s no way. The marks were too deep and not in a place on her hand you could accidentally do it holding her hand etc. Plus she didn’t cry out in pain. My husband questioned her at bedtime and she still had no idea how she got them.
Fast forward 24 hours and the school had a social worker, police etc and I’ve been accused of deliberately digging my nails into her!!!! I didn’t!!
My daughter has some degree of learning difficulty and nothing is diagnosed yet but her communication isn’t that of a six year old. Birth mum has learning difficulties too. Birth mum also tells a lot of stories like a small child might.
The teacher asked how she got the marks and she said I did it!!!! She’s never done this before. She regularly tells stories but not like this.
Three days after the marks were found she casually mentioned that in her swimming lesson she jumped in and went under so her teacher pulled her up!!!! She then needed the toilet desperately ( she’d soiled herself earlier and I think was scared that might happen again) so she went to the toilet. I know this as she was in the toilet at collection time. My guessing is the teacher accidentally caught her hand whilst quickly grabbing her up. The water and temperature maybe numbed the pain plus she was focussed on needing a poo fast. Hence not knowing the marks had happened until after.
I’ve had to have a very gruelling long police interview!
Social services absolutely will not entertain the idea I’m innocent. They absolutely won’t. I’m not allowed with the kids on my own!!! They say I have to admit I did it in order to lift the restrictions!!!! But I didn’t do it. Ever since my daughter has said I didn’t do it. But they don’t care about that.
Very scared because the only way out is confessing to something I didn’t do.
We’ve approached the swimming pool who have forwarded it o safeguarding but the social worker won’t even explore that option.
My daughter will make up a story if she’s asked a question she doesn’t know the answer to. But nobody will listen to us.