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It's not unusual and there are several posts on this topic, but not experienced it myself, so not much help, but have seen someone else post something similar this week, so don't worry about it being just you

HiSorry to hear your situation.You say you haven't attached to your kids but have they to you? Also what age are your kids? When ours were little i had one of those multi colored pop up tents that you get from Argos.I would drape blankets all around it so it was pitch black inside,then one adult and one child would climb inside and the adult would forget all about the washing,ironing,cooking,cleaning etc and concentrate fully on relaxing with your child.I think it was kind of embryonic to both our children and myself.Hope this is of help but most of all dont be too hard on yourself x

They were 2 & 4 when placed but are now 5 & 7, they have attached totally to us but do seem to have a closer relationship with my OH, they will go to OH when ill or want something where I am the second choice but then I think this is maybe normal, just feel I am not really needed.

Im wondering if you do most of the caring/diciplining? this usually happens if the other parent is away for most of the day/doesn't discipline in the same way as you do(i call it easy parenting!)#Regards Hubelly

Until recently I have always worked full time, long hours managing a day nursery so sadly have not been around as much during the week, the youngest AD did attend my nursery, but it was certainly my OH who was the main care giver. I'm at a total loss as to why I feel no real love for my children, I so want to feel that connection but its just like something is missing? Have others felt this?

Thank you, I will defiantly look for that book.x