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Do click on the Q&A icon at the top left of the page ( Home Matching Q&A Adoption Uk )

Once on you will see a list of topics that folk have answered Q's on.... there is one about letterbox... do check it out ....

HTH....

Xx moo xx

Thanks moo.

I haven't been on the forum for a while and I see it's all new since April. Mind you, I've never posted before, but I did read some threads especially when going through adopting the 3rd sibling 2 years ago. I registered again yesterday (I didn't have a PIN; I think that's new), so I've not yet been checked out to be a verified adopter.

That's perhaps why I don't see the Q&A icon. I only see Home Matching Adoption UK Community. I'll keep an eye out in the coming weeks.

I've also found some helpful examples by adoption agencies who put some information online. Plus it tells me that a page or two is fine.

Page or 2 wow that sounds like a book!

I am sure membership or verification will happen quickly then you will see Q&A... It is a good thread with posts from myself & other experienced adopters plus some practitioners? ? just remember to keep it in perspective ? ....

If it doesn't please keep posting & I can then repeat the post xx

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Xx moo xx

One side of A4 sounds fine - keep it general and light hearted - not too many details - much like you’d write to s distant relative. Also no holiday locations etc and any info about activities try and keep very general in case it becomes identifying later. (Eg - “”a favourite sport” rather than name of sport) I think it’s fine to say the children are doing well - after all the Bps want to know they are. I think also it’s a good opportunity to ask anything you / your child wants to know (you won’t necessarily get the answer but you might) Also I once mentioned going to speech therapy and got useful information about BMs language difficulties as a child

Hi, just wrote a general overview of how they are. I write it from myself so I can address the BPs by their first name! I include what food, songs and toys they like. How they are getting on at school etc

I also type the letters so I can reference back to them at a later date.

Thanks all for your input and reassurance.

I managed to write one side of an A4, which is informational, but not too heavy on the detail. I've not involved the children in the letter. This is a first letter whilst the 2 older ones have already been with us 5 years. They don't know we're sending one. We'll see if we get something back from their birth mother. My wife was happy with the letter too.

I typed the letter indeed and will also put a copy in their adoption folders in their memory boxes.

I used to type it and keep a copy on the computer so I could just amend / update it the next year. I haven’t got hard copies - I can print them if necessary and Letterbox co-ordinaries will keep a copy anyway