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Summer Of Discontent and Disruption.DS two weeks ago today just turned up on the doorstep, one carrier bag full of non summer stinking clothes, someone elses trainers two quid and half a pouch of baccie.I''ve come to visit mum, I''ll be staying a couple of days, I''ve missed you and dad and sisters, oh my I forgot how tidy clean our house is....oh my look at all the food in the cupboard.Upshot is that he and the gf had split up a couple of months back, no one told us, he has been on the sofa at her mums, she has moved back to her mums as she could not manage to run her flat, he has not been helped by the services so has had no money except what we had sent down and the odd days of cash in had work he got.He is talking in a way that tells us he is not going back, I contact our SW she sets in motion referals to local hostel and arranges connexions appt, in two weeks he will be 18, my sis gives him some work and pays him more than she ought too.....He cant stay here, we cant live with that stress...we never realised how stressful it was until he went...so has he changed.....NO within days he is back to the same, staying out whenever, leading his little sister astray, taking from them, he owes/owed money to local drug dealer, he refuses to do anything for us unless we pay handsomely....I have stuck to my guns and do not give him money, I have bought him underwear, paid for his haircut etc but no actual cash.In all this he has let the now ex gf and his son down, she has reacted by sending me a text warning me that she will be blocking us from FB and will not take our calls and for the sake of her son will not allow DS to just walk in and out of his life......I checked FB and we are all blocked out, she has not responded to my texts.....sad sad day. And what does DS say about it....well when my son is 18 and he comes to find me I will tell him that his mum caused all this.....god give me strength.