Hi Holly
Thank you for this and to everyone at Adoption UK for revitalising the peer to peer community groups. We go to two in our area. Both run by Adoption UK members: a community group in Warwick and a Friday night Chill n’ Chat in Coventry (the Coventry one really should be called “Cake n’ Chat”, our host loves baking!)
I think there’s so much potential with the Adoption UK community groups. Not only fantastic as peer to peer support, but also as they represent a huge amount of untapped local adoption knowledge, experience and expertise that needs releasing into the wider local adoption community and maybe beyond.
One area that I thought the Adoption UK community groups could make a big difference/impact on is to support adoptive families with their local schools. Now that children have returned to school, the discussion, topics and themes at our local peer to peer groups are dominated by school issues. It’s so desperately sad to see adoptive families plunged into crisis by their children’s schools.
I wondered if the Adoption UK community groups could share their knowledge of local schools to create a simple directory of “adoption friendly” schools. They are out there! Both our children’s primary and secondary school are “trauma & attachment aware” and I would recommend both schools to all adoptive parents in our area.
A very simple local adoption friendly school directory/guide would be really helpful to parents, especially parents who have adopted older school aged children and have to hit the ground running. Obviously, it would need some initial thought and oversight. Understandably, some adoptive parents are very bitter when it comes to schools (i.e. they have had such poor support/experiences). I wouldn’t wish the directory to become an opportunity to vent personal frustration against a certain school. In fact, keep it simple; just highlight the adoption friendly schools. For example, such and such parents recommend this school. Have a chat with this teacher in the school for more details etc.
Who knows where it might lead? If the directory works, there may come a time when Adoption UK are able to introduce a nationwide scheme to accredit schools as being certified as adoption friendly by local parents.
I am sure you will all agree that as adoptive parents there are so many very simple things we could all do in our local Adoption UK Community Groups to better support each other. I have some ideas in the community groups to support older children, but that’s for another time……
Thanks again Holly and team. Keep up the magnificent work. We really do appreciate all your hard work.
Take care
Simon