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Explaining why he doesn''t have a Dad...
jai257
August 3, 2013 20:47
Hi allMy little one is 2 - moved in Jan and all is happy and well. At some point he''s going to ask why he doesn''t have a Dad. He obviously has a birth father which he hasn''t met and we have letterbox contact. And I''ve given him three god fathers to play a big role when he''s older mainly. He tried calling me Dad recently! He was kind of testing it. Anyway I just feel bad that most people do have a Dad (or had one at some point), and for him as I adopted him on my own - he has no one he can even point to as a Dad...I know I should have thought about this before adopting as a single Mum, but any advice on how to talk to him about it when he''s little?Thanks!
piglethh
August 3, 2013 21:02
My LO is 6 which makes it a bit easier although it does mean she asked pretty quickly. I always point out the male figures in her life and also say that the judge thought she needed someone who could be for just her. It seems to work for her so far.
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Vicky Vixen
August 3, 2013 22:25
This is more about my bd as I'm still going through the adoption process. My bd's father left before she was born so she's never known him or his family. She started asking why she didn't have a daddy at a very early age - far earlier than I'd anticipated (think around 2yrs). I told her something along the lines that everyone has a father but not everyone has a daddy who lives with them. She seemed to accept that and the fact that her father lived in another place. Obviously as she got older I told her more and more; I just tried to be honest in an age-appropriate (or child-appropriate) way.
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