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Hello cmt I would imagine your agency should take care of this for you. I think I'm right in saying that if you don't know the register office where the death was registered, you have to wait 6 months from the date of death to order a certificate. So if you know when the birth father is supposed to have died, then you (or your social worker) can obtain a death certificate after 6 months. Sounds like your SW didn't have all their paperwork in order. Of course its entirely possible the birth mother has given incorrect information (and even if someone has died he may or may not have been the actual father?) We had our adoption order postponed for a different reason. We were 'gutted' as they say. But AO was granted a few weeks later.

Hi cmt - I'm so sorry, how disappointing for you. I can imagine that in the disappointment all sorts of worst case scenarios are playing out - the birth father being identified, not dead, and returning to claim your child. Please be assured that that won't happen. As Larsti has said, this is about SWs not managing to get the paperwork sorted out. Do the best you can to put all of this to the back of your mind and carry on enjoying family life with your son. It will, eventually, be sorted. Best wishes LB

Also possibly the birth mum trying to drag things out (so from her point of view it’s not final) by introducing an element of doubt

We had similar issues with the BM updating information regarding possibe BF at a late stage. It was awful, and frustrating as SW should have sorted this out prior to court application. Fingers crossed for you that it is just a blip. Ours delayed placement by 3 months. It is best to get it resolved now, rahter than BF "turning up" at a later stage and claiming he wasnt given an opportunity re the child. I am sure the courts will be pragmatic after a certain period of time, if no proof can be found, in the interest of the child. Best wishes.