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jandj1982
July 27, 2009 20:30
Hi everyone! Just thought I''d make my introductions as it seems like a fantastic formum for sharing ideas and experiences. My partner and I are both 27 and enjoyed a wonderful civil partnership a year ago, after 7 blissfully happy years together. Although adoption was somethig we''d considered for a while, we began feeling more recently that we''re ready to begin the process. This might sound a bit odd, but we''re the most ''normal'' couple I know and after getting married last year, having a child feels like the most natural of steps for us. Both my partner and I are primary school teachers and see the benefits that care and attention can reap on a child almost every day. We have the support of wonderful family and friends and know that a child would be welcomed into our extended family. I guess, besides just saying hi, I wondered if those of you who have a great deal more experience than we do at this stage, have any words of wisdom to offer? We''ve read just about every book and article written about adoption (and gay adoption more specifically), but before we make contact with the council''s adoption service, is there anything else that might be useful for us to know or consider that''s not covered by the ''official party line''? Any advice woud be gratefully received. Many thanks! John
Kanga2
July 27, 2009 20:38
Hi, no advice, except if your name is the same as your user name it would probably be a good idea to get it changed to something less identifiable. I can't quite remember how you have to ask for this, but perhaps the moderators will jump in and say.Kanga2
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jandj1982
July 27, 2009 20:42
On it, just sent a message. Thanks for that... I didn't realise when setting up the profie. D'oh!
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upnorth
July 28, 2009 00:00
If you haven't done so already do try www.newfamilysocial.co.uk
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GTR
July 28, 2009 09:38
Hi Up NorthFirstly good luck! My only advise would be try to be as open and honest with your sw, some are better than others!Also, try to think ahead if you can, they will want to know who will give up work, how do you feel about it etc.Be prepared for some ups and downs. We had a some issues around race and really had to fight our case. Even after being approved we are still fighting. I dont want to put you off as the end outcome will be well worth all the problems.GTR
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hubelly
July 28, 2009 19:31
Hi JohnGood luck with your journey,Myself and partner have been re4cently approved as adopters and now have the wait for a match.Its a long sometimes hard road but i promise you be open,honest but most of all be yourselves and im sure you will enjoy the process.Also speak to Andy and join new family social as it has proved invaluable to us b4 during and after the assesment.Best of luck Hubelly
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jandj1982
July 29, 2009 21:01
Thanks for the advice, I will take a look at the new family social site.
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ducks
July 30, 2009 17:09
I'd recommend sussing out which LA or agency to go with. Legally none should discriminate against you but really you want an agency who are fairly enthusiastic about your application.You could write to a few and ask how long the application, assessment and approval process might be for you (male partners, xxxx ethnic backgrounds, age xx, primary school teachers), and what the chances would be of them finding a match for you. You'd need to say you think you'd like to adopt eg one child of either sex under 3 years old.I'd write to every LA nearby, and a few further afield. I'd include a few big cities or councils you think might be forward thinking.
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