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Adopting with a mental health condition

James312 August 22, 2021 23:42

Hello all

This is my first post on here but something that has been bothering me for some time. I have a relatively long history of anxiety, but generally well-controlled with medication. I have a good, well-paying job and have never needed time off work because of my mental health, but recently it’s been quite a bit worse (more frequent and severe panic attacks). I am seeing a brilliant consultant, so there is a good treatment plan in place.

In practice, how is this likely to affect an adoption application? Are there any mental health instances (eg mental health crises) that would likely be disqualifying, or is there a particular length of time an agency would expect your condition to be stable before giving you consideration?

I’m self-aware enough to know that right now, mid-treatment, isn’t the right time for me to begin the process; but I want to start it as soon as possible (I’m a 30 year old gay man with a partner who doesn’t think he wants children, so I know that’s a separate consideration I need to give some thought to - though I think I know the answer…). Guidance online says it’s fact-specific, which I get, but it would be useful to understand some real-life considerations for prospective adopters with mental health conditions.

i have an excellent family support network, am financially stable, and know I could give a child all the love and care in the world.

Thanks in advance.

Safia August 23, 2021 12:06

I think you’re right - it needs to be well under control as you say and if your partner doesn’t want children then that would rule you out for now. I think counselling would be very helpful - not only for your anxiety but also to help you look at all the other issues around having children and your relationship. It’s not just about the assessment process but living with traumatised children can be very stressful and so you need to decide if that is for you. Read as much as you can so you can get some idea of what it’s like - talk to your partner - I don’t think you would be approved while in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want children - that would not work - you have to be VERY committed for adoption. As I said I think finding some counselling to help you think through all of this would be a good first step - and if you do go ahead it will be in your favour that you’ve done so

Edited 23/08/2021


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