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DIfficult experiences
aldwych
March 20, 2015 16:31
We've been approved as adopters for about 9 months now, and have experienced at least 2 episodes of poor practice. In both instances we were contacted by SWs for LAs who had seen our profile on the National Adoption register, who wanted to tell us about their children, thinking we'd be a good match. We then read all the paperwork, and agreed that we wanted to move forward with a match. At that point, the children's SWs have said that actually, although they approached us, they didn't have approval to place the children out of area, and so things couldn't then move forward. It's been really disappointing for us, and I'm not sure why this couldn't have been established before sending out the paperwork etc etc. Has this happened to anyone else?
pingu123
March 31, 2015 17:39
Our first child was placed with us, out of area, but hard to place due to age, so they were not looking for reasons to stay in house ( i think it is cheaper to place in own area) Not sure you can do anything about it, i doubt it would justify a complaint and only get you a reputation as a troublemaker. This whole adoption process is a massive learning curve ! My approach would be to say to myself " ok,lesson learnt, next time i am contacted about kids, the first thing i say is " are the chidren/ child a) freed for adoption (b) cleared for placement out of area. Unless they say yes to both i would say, come back and tell us the childs details when they the answers to both are yes " Dont invest any emotional energy until then, as its so debilitating to get familiar with kids profiles, get your hopes up and then it goes belly up. When we were waiting, after a year we asked the council if they had anyone definate in mind for us in the near future, when they didnt, we asked if they would mind us looking around ourselves. They couldnt really object at that point, so we looked in children who wait magazine and applied for our first child, an out of area placement , but the first thing we did was ask if that would be a problem, sw said not with us but we will ask the dhild. Child was up for it ( older child) so all ok. Good luck Pingu
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