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Pear Tree
September 8, 2013 11:40
I think I need really to take a strong sniff before I write this, but, We are seeing A BIT of blossom change The unit are trying to teach various skills and spelling out how terrible it feels to find windows broken by her etc It seems that maybe due to the seriousness of the current circumstances but something is going in She's demonstrating remorse and is learning the words and thoughts around empathy The new mobile phone has been a hit She texted me 'I luv u mum x' and it was unprompted and 'felt' real It's very raw and tender talking about love and blossom. But I do think there is something going on positively for her in this part of life Whether its enough to influence or even change any of the serious risk behaviours remains to be seen. But there's A BIT of positive change I think
shadow
September 8, 2013 11:53
so lovely to see - that unit seems to be better than the other places she has been-and having you nearby and so involved must be helping her a lot what an amazing mum blossom has - and maybe she is starting to realise how lucky she is
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Tokoloshe
September 8, 2013 16:17
What a lovely text to get, hopefully Blossom is maturing and there is a little bit of change.
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Haze
September 8, 2013 16:55
Hoping that the positives continue for her and you.
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Sivier
September 8, 2013 17:11
Good to hear. This user has voted :)
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Pear Tree
September 8, 2013 20:26
I got this book called "zero degrees of empathy" It highlighted a lot of the intelligent response on one hand and lack of natural empathy on the other. Helen oakwater recommended it and I've read some of it, wonder if others might find it helpful I think being close enough, working together and actually blossom simply being older and loved throughout everything has started to chip away (?)
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phoebe67
September 8, 2013 21:01
So glad to hear your positive news, PT. It gives me hope. I visited DS today in his foster place, and apart from asking what I had brought him, bullying DD and bragging how he was working to have the other child fostered there removed, he had nothing at all to say! I saw a tiny remorseful comment on FB just after he went, which was, I think, directed to his mates and GF, there has been nothing! Feel rather sad about him today. Glad Blossom is making progress though. x
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Patanya
September 10, 2013 23:28
Just wanted to add there us quite a lot of research done on emotional intelligence - sth adopted children may struggle with. There us also sth called the wilbur framework which helps show all the different factors that can impact on how people react to things and how behaviour may be affected. Makes interesting reading. There are lots of courses available on Emotional Intelligence
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Serrakunda
September 11, 2013 10:23
what a lovely text to receive - small steps but it in the right direction.
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