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no experience as our ad is mixed race like me so not an issue - there are of course some families on here who have adopted from abroad and their child will look obviously different - there are things to think about, but of course your wider family is multi coloured which is easier for your children that they are not the only ones of a different colour. also depends on what type of area you live in - will they be the only non whites in school etc? are you ready for the questions from everyone who will notice the difference including of course your children - lots of questions - but you're the only one to know the answers to .. have you read " in search of belonging" Perlita harris - great book on children from different cultures/ colours adopted into white families - helps put it in context - alhtough most of hte children were in white families in white areas - so no ethnic mixes in school , town etc.

no real advice but dident want to see you with no answers.im part of a mixed race family so we all reflect well.(sometimes)as although we are a mixed race family all our children have different skin tones so we are a all shades family as our teen says.however knowing people will asume either one of you is the parent and the other a step parent,or that your adopters is half the battle.with your love and support your children will become able to see passt this and as a family you can work out what you tell nosey people and what you dont.(if that makes sense)and if its people you dont know then really they don matter do they