Hi.
In 2022 my then 18 year old AS met a man 10 years older and left home. They are now engaged. He hasn’t been back since, apart from one very difficult meeting and has broken all contact with his adopted family. We are heartbroken and there are some days, like today where I’m really struggling. I called the police as I felt he was a vulnerable adult but there was nothing they could do.
He’s connected with birth family and moved back towards them. The kick in the gut was when I found out he’d changed his name back to birth name. Absolutely devastated. We have support from SW but no one in our friendship circle really understands how I’m feeling. I’m trying to move forward and spend quality time with my husband and family but we’re experiencing a bereavement of sorts and AS has no idea the impact this has had on us. He has RAD and has always been challenging. I was prepared for birth family connections but not to this extent.
I check his Facebook profile now and again, but I know this isn’t always a good thing. He looks like he isn’t taking care of himself. I understand he’s a young adult but to have no contact is devastating.
I’m putting one foot in front of the other and understand the need for self care. But I’m so sad.
Thanks for reading.
