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how sad!

that is so sad and one of my biggest worries about fostering, that a child will go 'home' and then either be returned or taken back into care. sometimes got to wonder what the courts think they are doing. I have heard of magistrates ignoring the recommendations against going back to BP that come from Sw's psychologists, guardians and anyone else involved in the assessment process. they must have some knowledge of the situation I guess that everyone else didn't have.

OH POOR LITTLE MAN...shame people didnt think on how it would be in a year or so....now even more damage done and more attachment issues....

Really feel for you - We had a beautiful little boy come to us aged 4 months with a serious injury caused by BF there had also been issues of quite severe neglect, he stayed with us for 17 months during which time mum assured SS thay she was no longer in a relationship with Dad. I was approached by a mum at the school my kids go to who recognised this child and who told me mum and dad were still seeing each other and basically laughing behind the SW back. I past this on to SS, gave the guardian this womans phone number so that she could pass on the info she had and wrote a letter ouylining all my concerns - the result was that the child was returnr to mum and I was accused of listening to gossip and speculation that had upset mum. Two years on and this child is now back in care,living in his 5th home (aged only 5) and with two younger sibs who surprisingly have the same dad!!! Sometimes the system really sucks and I wonder why I am part of it but hold onto the fact that I do the best for these kids whilst I havr them in my care

I think this has happened with pretty much every child I ever fostered

I think Wriggles is right. We really do have to focus on giving the children the best possible care while they are with us. We have so little opportunity to influence the system itself.Hilly7

awww hilly this is soo so sad.as an adopter its something we dont understand enough i feel.but as a friend of a foster carer i have supported her threw a few mistakes the ss have made in judgement and watched her sob and worry over the children.as you say hilly fc give there all tot he children while they are with them and it must be so hard for you all,

It is very sad, our adopted 2 are fostering returns ! One of our first ones went home at 13 , in and out of behaviour units, now 19, he text and asked if he could move back !We said no, but offered help and he rings on and off and said thank you.You never know what memories they keep, he was a nightmare at the time !