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I never got adopted but never really knew why!
MrsHiggins
November 26, 2009 08:43
I don''t know if this is the right place to ask this question but I have always wondered why I was never adopted. I was told that I was abandoned at a few days old, certainly I never knew my birth parents and I was brought up in a series of foster homes and Childrens Homes. The question of adoption was never mentioned to me as far as I can remember and although I asked my social workers a few times they always acted shifty and a bit evasive, even the nice ones. I am 22 now and I am getting married in the New Year but I would still like to know the answer.
turtle2009
November 26, 2009 08:58
hello and welcomei am sure you will get some replies sooni am an adopter of older children . . one aged 7y from a childrens home . . .so it did happen but maybe not often enoughhave you contacted the agency whose care you were in for access to records and counselling?i have read a book by kate adie about 'foundlings' and how hard it must be to have so little informationi have also read a book by phil frampton who grew up in barnardo's homeshope you find some answers but you may just find more questionsgood luck
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Angelsmum
November 26, 2009 11:57
Hi,I don't have any advice, but I hope you get some answers from SS and your file and very many congratultions on getting married have a fabulous dayAngelsmum
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jmk
November 28, 2009 15:07
Hi Mrs Higgins,From a fellow adoptee, I would have assumed that as you are over 18 you should have a right to see your files under the freedom of information act. It does seem odd that you are not being given answers, as you have every right to know all the facts as you are an adult.There is a thread on the "suggested resources" about getting childrens information which may be of help to you.Hope you find out.Take Care and congrats!
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Lonsdale
November 28, 2009 15:15
My best friend was adopted in 1960s & she contacted ss to get records of her time in care. Although she was only in for a couple of months, there were some quite detailed records on her time in the home & it seemed she had already been put up for adoption once before with another couple, so hopefully if your records are more recent there should be some information on their files. if you find they are being evasive, try freedom of information act.all the bestl
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