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One giant leap into the unknown.....
glamps
January 21, 2014 13:44
Background: Myself and my partner have been together for over 8 years, are 26 and 27 retrospectively, own our own house and both have stable jobs; I work in a university as a mental health specialist and she works in a primary school. We are due to get married in 2015 and feel ready to have a family and begin the process of adoption. Story so far: Following advice I had received off a friend, who had adopted 2 gorgeous children and from this forum, we rang a number of adoption agencies and councils in our area. We received packs and attended a fair to meet the social workers and discuss the process involved. The hurdle: I still feel this is a step into the dark and unknownâ¦.Does everyone feel this at the beginning stages of adoption? My heart is so ready to begin this process and completely feel this is the natural progression in my life at this time. However my head doesnât feel ready to take the leap. I described it to my partner as abseiling down a cliff, I know I want to do it and am so excited to begin, but Iâve found my foot is stuck to the side of the cliff. Does this feeling resonate with any other members? Does the process become clearer as you âtravelâ through it?
Serrakunda
January 21, 2014 15:09
You sound perfectly normal to me! Adoption is one great big leap into the unknown, I think it's more worrying when people are super confident. I'm a single adopter with one son aged 9 who has been home for 2 years in April. He is the best thing in my life ever, but flipping hard work, every day is a challenge and although he is doing amazingly well, I can see potential issues in the future. You can be sure that adoption is what you want to do, but being apprehensive is normal and ok, it's a huge thing to do, accepting uncertainty is key. Good luck.
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treehugger
January 21, 2014 18:15
Hi, my partner and I have been approved since October and are waiting to be matched. It's quite a long process, 8 months for us and we are still waiting to find the right children. It's still nerve racking now for both of us and this is the really hard part, finding the family for us. Something to bear in mind is that you can always change your mind during the process or as you find out more along the route you can slow it down until you are ready to progress. Take it at your own pace. There is no rush!
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bovary
January 22, 2014 20:43
Yes, it sounds normal to me too! And you won't have a child placed next week! Lots of exploration to go before that (learning how to abseil!). You are a young couple and no doubt want explore in some detail your reasons for adoption as a first choice, and at quite a young age. Not a disadvantage, but it is what struck me about your circumstances and no doubt it will strike your SW too, so don't be surprised if they want to look at that closely with you. Good luck! Excitement and anxiety can feel very similar, can't they!
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glamps
January 28, 2014 17:33
Thank you for all your feedback :-D!!!! Good to know it not just me feeling like this!! It has been really useful to hear from other adopters! Bovary- Just to add a little clarity, me and my partner are both female (Mummy and Mammy) which is why this is our first choice. We have now chosen the council that we want to proceed with; following us visiting the wedding fairs and the next step will be to arrange an initial visit! I think key for me will be being honest about the speed I wish to take this process. Luckily I have a good piece of rope holding on to me throughout ;-D
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