Massively outing post alert…
So the usual story, my easy-to-place baby with absolutely no health concerns at all, is now 13 and registered blind, has a diagnosis of binge eating disorder and a live referral into CAMHS as of this week for possible ASD with a PDA profile.
I have just had my request for an EHCP needs assessment turned down by my LA because my DD, despite all of the above, is in a mainstream selective grammar school and, as such, is deemed to be broadly meeting age-related expectations. Utter twits (change the vowel and you’ll get a stronger sense of my true feelings.
My DD struggles every.single.day at school; she has no friends, is bullied on the basis of her disability in lessons like PE where teams consider her a losing liability. I could go on but you’ve all been there, worn the t-shirt, read the script, earned a medal and been knighted by the Queen.
So, my six-million dollar question to you is, is it actually worth me taking my shower-of-sh1tes authority to a tribunal to get the assessment or should I conserve my increasingly limited energy for dealing with the consistently difficult daily challenges of raising an adopted teen with very complex needs - and extreme behaviours? In essence, did having an EHCP make a joy of difference to your young person - or to you?
Backstory is that my dad died five months ago, I’m caring on my own for my mum who is frail, CEV and essentially housebound now, my brother has been seriously ill in hospital since July, and I’m a single adopter to a five-year-old also. In short, there’s only one of me and I’m managing three households, one of which is 200 miles away.
Thanks!