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Our DD is nearly 5, my partner is her biological dad who was widowed when DD was only 8 months old. We have been together for about 3 years and DD has seen me as her Mum for most of that time. DD is very close to her Dad''s Mum who looked after her a great deal when her first Mum died. DD loves staying with her and always really looks forward to seeing her. Her relationship with my Mum is of course very different, which is totally understandable. The problem is, DD is anxious at the thought of my Mum looking after her, even just for the day. She actually says she doesn''t like her and shes got a croaky voice (I kind of know what she means but you wouldn''t notice - its just not soft like mine and other granny''s.)She says she doesn''t like her consistently, not to get a reaction, (though it does upset me). I don''t know whether to go ahead with plans for my Mum to look after her for a couple of days (her dad and I will be home in the evenings, so it will just be daytimes) because she''s really upset at the prospect. She has had some phases of seperation anxiety over the last year, especially with changing nursery then starting school. She''s coping OK with school cos she enjoys it but still has to be brave about saying goodbye when i drop her off.I also worry about what to say to my Mum. She''s sympathetic about DDs seperation anxiety but quite old school and no nonsense in terms of how to deal with it, and thinks DD just needs to learn to deal with these things by getting used to them.Help? anyone...