November 20, 2021 00:01
Myself and my wife are very interested in trying to adopt, however I'm worried that my wifes medical history would make it a non starter to begin with. Would like to get some ideas about how likely our chances are before I put her through the process.
She was diagnosed with Stage 4 terminal cancer over 7 years ago. The tumours are under control, but she is still classed as stage 4. Would this make it a non starter?
November 20, 2021 22:33
In the current covid climate, few of us really know what our longer term prognoses are .. I’ve lost friends to covid as I’m sure lots of us have. I say that as the wife of someone who has stage 4 cancer so I’m not being flippant. My husband was diagnosed 5 years ago, had immunotherapy, surgery and is now treated with drugs. He lives a normal life. Works full time in a stressful job. Three children (two teens, one now adult). Three monthly scans.
Oncologists have never described his cancer as terminal, rather it’s incurable but treatable.
How is your wife’s health currently? Would her oncologist be willing to provide a supporting letter? It may not be the ideal scenario but I’m sure there will be many different aspects to take into account. You’ve nothing to lose by asking.