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What To Do About AWOL
Darcy
September 8, 2009 17:38
Awol has apparently returned to the place he was born, and is living with his brother and brothers girlfriend. Now I do not like what I hear about my son from Miss D, (has to be taken with a pinch of salt). But apparently he has held birth mother down whilst brother hit her.Now I said to Miss D you do know that that is wrong, and violence is not the answer. What should have actually happened is that if AWOL has a grievance it should be taken through proper channels, not resorting to lowlife behaviours.I am sad for his life, having lost his apprenticeship, and been kicked out of placement, where once again he made allegations against his carers!!. Well we knew that was on the cards didn''t we.Myself and Mr D are so sad and do not know what to do for the best at prsesent.Love Darcy xx
turtle
September 8, 2009 18:39
Really sorry to hear this Darcy, it must be really upsetting for you both. I am not sure there is anything you can do. I don't know if you have contact with him or if he would listen. I feel for you and Mr DXX
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Shes like the wind
September 8, 2009 19:06
another dilemma......What would i do well ithought and i thought and I personally think i would have to put out an olive branch and see if he took it.The allergations are actually quite common but it is not thpought processing from the here and now but the trauma of the past.This fella needs serious help -its quite clear to me personally that he has not dealt with the issues of the past and this will go on with him.I think you have to say to yourselves -are we strong enough for the outcome either way?If he take the olive branch?If he doesnt take the olive branch?Sorry stating the obvious really not sure if being helpful!?All my love my friend....
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mum.47
September 8, 2009 19:20
Hi DarcyI have been watching the story unfold with Miss D and I note that the info about AWOL has come from her.. (I know with my 2 they often tell "stories" about sibling to try to raise their own status)If it were me I would spend my time building on the relationship being revived with Miss D trying to be "friendly" with dreamboat (hardI know)and try and find out more info about AWOL from a more reliable source...It's never easy is it. Good luckX
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Darcy
September 9, 2009 09:01
Thank you turtle, we have no contact with him, and as for listening, AWOL never listens to anyone (like Miss D) that is all part of their problem.Love Darcy xx
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Darcy
September 9, 2009 09:03
Windy,Myself and Mr D have no idea what to do to be honest. We will see what further info we can glean I think.Love your friend Darcy xx
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Darcy
September 9, 2009 09:07
Hello.47,We also think this could be an option, that Miss is putting AWOL in a bad light, (they didn't get on). I do believe that he has got the sack and been kicked out of his placement, its about the same time period that he became really obnoxious with me!!!.We are taking it all with a pinch of salt I can tell you.Love Darcy xx
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aprilshowers
September 9, 2009 17:26
Hello DarcyWell I do not know what to suggest, either way you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont, you could hold out the olive branch to him via Miss D but what if brother and brothers girlfriend end up on your doorstep as well. If there was a way of meeting him on neutral ground just to see if he's OK and if there is anything practical you and Mr D can do for him and him alone.Still thinking of you and yourslove June
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Darcy
September 9, 2009 17:57
Enid,Thankfully he now lives 2 hours away from us, so that is one blessing. I am just worried about AWOL ending up in jail!!.Love Darcy xx
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Darcy
September 9, 2009 17:59
April,I think in some ways the sleeping dog needs to remain snoozing, otherwise AWOL might try and cause some trouble and I'll only end up having him arrested. Prison is not the answer for our vulnerable children.Love Darcy xx
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Darcy
September 10, 2009 09:00
Enid, I believe it will happen in AWOL's case I can tell you. AWOL needs some serious help, as I told SS, but their reply was "he just needs a loving home". How bloody insulting can you get!!. What do they think he got with us??.The reason AWOL is where he is now is a combination of genes, and SS, that is the truth of the matter.Love Darcy xx
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Angelsmum
September 10, 2009 11:01
No words of wisdom I afraid, you have miles more experience and wisdom than me, but want to send you a cyber hugAngelsmumx
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Darcy
September 10, 2009 14:18
Cyberhug accepted angelsmum, thank you.Love Darcy xx
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