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I have been following your posts so congratulations I wish you both lots of love luck and happyness. Keep on top of the controling stuff it can were you down a bit, well it does me anyway. Xxx

congratulations and good luck !!

Congrats. enjoy.

Really pleased to hear this. Hope all goes well. Thinking of you both x

Congratulations and good luck. Am sure you have read plenty of posts from new adopters who feel they have been hit over the head with a sledgehammer, so cut yourself some slack and don't expect it all to fall into place straight away. Keep coming and talking to us, I remember those early days so well!

kstar,The very best of luck. Sure you and starlet will find your path together. Take your time at things, it is a long journey. Choose your battles wisely. Always remember you are doing the best you can with the resources you have. MAke sure you accept ALL OFFERS of ANY KIND OF SUPPORT! (Ironing included! )Take time to enjoy your journey.Keep posting.Phoebe x

Today was exhausting. She was such a little ball of nervous energy... One minute she's controlling and overly independent, telling me she doesn't want to stay here and she's going back to FCs. The next she is wrapped around me so tight I can't breathe and telling me never to let go of her. Hurricane through the house one minute, collapsed on me wanting hugs the next. So difficult to predict what she's going to do and how to react!I know everyone always says how tough it can be, but knowing the theory and experiencing it are so different :-(

Fingers crossed for a quiet night - life is so much more bearable if you get a good nights sleep.Best of luck.MMx

all the best on this new part of your life lots of hugs Homerton

Welcome to the group! Hope being a mum is everything you wished for and more. Your dd sounds lovely - reminds me of mine at that age. Do take care to breathe between hugs....

I read your post about day 1 Thought how tough it isThenRead your closing strap lineGrinned ear to earWell done that mum

As my mum reminded me yesterday, it's a marathon not a sprint! Trying to focus on the positives.It helped that this morning she bounced out of bed and shouted "I am staying here forever!" Might have been 6.30 but I still managed a smile lol.

Hi kstarI'm not single, and had much younger child on placement - and I still found it enormously challenging, a total shock to the system and exhausting!Starlet's anxiety levels sound sky high and she must be all over the place, but you sound very tuned into her. Hugs, really hope you have a good day today.

K star, I have a 6 year old who has been with me nearly three years and soooooooooo active! It is exhausting and it is hard work on your own, but yes ...soooooooooooooooo worth it.Your mum is so right!Take care

What are you doing re school kstar? Is she starting after half-term?

Yes she is :-) just mornings to start with but in an absolutely gorgeous little primary where the staff are really tuned in.Life got so much easier today when I ignored social worker advice and took her to my best friends' house... It was sunny, they have a huge garden with a swing, hammock, pond, basketball hoop and badminton net... We stayed for two hours, she ran off some energy in the garden while I got some MUCH needed grown up time and came home feeling like a different person!

Everything is getting easier each day, one baby step at a time. She was quite anxious this morning because her social worker was due for her first visit. She really likes her social worker but I think she was worried she might get moved again. She perked up afterwards and we had lots of cuddles and talking about our forever life, as she calls it. She told me she really likes cuddles with me, cue big grin from ear to ear for both of us.We then once again ignored social workers' advice to stay home for two weeks (I'd love to see them live one to one in a house with a hyperactive 6 yr old for two weeks, it would make a great reality TV show!) and went to soft play to get rid of some energy.My little princess is now tucked up in bed snoring her head off, having told me today was awesome and I am awesome and our forever life will be awesome :-)So so happy!!!

Hmmmm, staying home for a fortnight, not sure I could do that without losing my marbles!Getting out is a good thing, but that doesn't mean big exciting trips, but little routine things - bus to the shops, feeding the ducks, trip to the same playground, garden centre to buy plants then home to plant them. And soft play is great as long as it's not too frenetic.

No I agree :-) theme parks etc are off the menu haha. We have been to the park a couple of times during school time, so she is always the oldest there which is nice for her. Soft play was pretty quiet but she's an absolute monkey climber, she loves it, and seems able to block out everything else that was happening around her. Feeding the ducks went down well, even though the ducks had clearly been over fed that day haha.My SW reminded me again today that we shouldn't really be going out much at all or seeing anyone else... But it's not healthy for me, which is not good for her! It means once we have been out and maybe seen one of my immediate support network (in a week she has met my mum, my two best friends and our closest neighbours) for a couple of hours, I am so much more relaxed and able to give her 100% of my attention.