Hi, Could you please share any useful tips or hints on accessing post adoption support - financial and/or therapeutic. We are currently struggling with our 10 year old twins, but every time I get in touch with the local authority, I feel we get fobbed off and nothing much happens. Things at home may then calm down a bit and we decide that we are probably OK trying to cope on our own. Until the next really tricky phase kicks in...
I have paid for a couple of sessions with an adoption psychologist privately, but whilst she is very good, she is also very expensive. But I feel like if I try to get anything via the LA, things will have changed many times over before anything comes to fruition.
I had a meeting with a SW at the start of the year due to my son's very angry outbursts (physical violence, breaking things etc). I happened to mention also my frustration with his school where many parents are very focussed on getting their kids into the local grammar schools. We are not considering this for our son, but in his close friendship group all the other boys are being tutored. I think this makes him feel a bit separate, and it's not doing any favours to his already low self-esteem. Having told this to the SW, he basically told me that the whole behavioural issue is something I need to take up with the school, and pretty much washed his hands off me. Told me to get in touch if I still needed help.
So understandably I'm not massively keen to try this route again, but equally, not sure how much we can afford privately. If anyone has any useful tips on how to ask for things, and perhaps even what to ask for specifically, I'd love to hear from you.