I have had a phone call today saying that I cannot move to stage one as my mobility isn’t good enough. I use a walking stick when out of the house and lead a full life. My mobility is not a major issue for me and I spoke to my doctor before I began the application process, who were very supportive of my plan to adopt.
i was very upfront about my mobility with my social worker in our initial chat on the phone but when I told her I felt her whole attitude towards me change. It felt like I was instantly written off, but she thought she better come to my house and see how I walked around. I showed her around my home without use of a stick as I use it more outdoors. But I really felt she’d made up her mind before she even arrived for the visit. That was all she talked about and she was very negative about me.
I received a telephone call from the social worker today saying she wasn’t putting me forward onto stage one (I’d guessed that much already) but if I had physio then I could think about reapplying in a few years when I could walk better !!!
I’m beyond shocked by her attitude and I actually feel quite offended. My doctor does not feel I need physio. I think it would have been easier if my dr who knew me had highlighted an issue in my medical. I know LA’s and VA’s say they welcome applications from adopters with disabilities but it just sounds like an empty attempt to be seen as inclusive.
sorry to vent but I’m angry, hurt and offended.