Our son is 14. Been with us since he was a baby. He has always resisted rules and it's just got so much worse now. I ask every day if he wants to go out and he always says no. We have so many fantastic places close to where we live. To be honest, Ive felt like a caged animal since lockdown as my husband is working from home. I only go out briefly as he wouldn't be able to get much work done otherwise. Our son has ADHD.
Our son just wants to sit on his phone all day.we removed his playstation last year after many attempts to regulate his usage. He constantly refused to accept limits and even smashed the visual timers. He only has his mobile phone now and that's the same . We are trying to impose a limit of 2 hours a day and he resists that too. On top of all this, he says he wants to live somewhere else and that he wishes we were never his mum and dad.
I have tried to get him to do just one hour of online learning a day and he has no interest at all. For my sanity, I am starting to let go. I spent a lot of time and effort encouraging to do some school work in lockdown but he did everything he could to avoid it. We have explained about exams and jobs but he has no interest in it at all. When he goes back in September, he will be in year 10 and all the pressure of exams. Is it reasonable for me to tell school that I'm not going to push him? This might make me appear to be a sloppy parent but I just can't carry on after 7 years of school issues. Endless meetings etc. I need to step back and praise the good and let him take any consequences for not doing work. Problem is, they telephone the parents and somehow expect a soloution. He will have a scribe for exams and he has help from Learning support in class. We really can't do anything more to help him in school. I've got to the stage now where this adoption could be disrupted if he causes any trouble when he gets back to school.
We have MAST coming to work with him soon (waiting ) about anger. He was shoving us and being verbally and physically abusive which cumulated in me ringing the police a couple of weeks ago. He was behaving like a domestic abuser. It was embarrassing to have the police in the house but I had to do it. I cannot let him behave like that or he may make any future girlfriend very unhappy.
Is anyone else having similar issues ?