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Two bits of good news
Bigmrs
October 23, 2018 22:22
Hi all... I posted a couple of weeks ago about son struggling at new special school and how I wasnât too sure about the schoolâs sometimes a bit heavy handed approach... I still have one or two doubts about the approach, but son has really settled in, he seems really well liked by the staff and it shows in their interactions with him, he is calm and happy going in and didnât even want the half term holiday... I feel relieved and a bit more hopeful that he might thrive there rather than just keeping his head (barely) above water... The other thing is he had stopped wanting to go to a canoeing club that he used to enjoy and which gave us a tiny bit of respite... it was really good for him as the adults there really got him and were so welcoming. Anyway, he decided to go back there this holiday and really enjoyed it - I think now that he just couldnât cope with new school and going to a club, just wanted to be at home. Very understandable and logical and a good lesson for me to remember in future! Feeling positive tonight!! Xx
Larsti
October 23, 2018 23:17
Excellent!!
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Libertas
October 23, 2018 23:29
Hi Bigmrs Yay, two pieces of good news for the price of one! Itâs so nerve wracking trusting our precious small people to new schools/organisations/people - will they / wonât they âgetâ them? Itâs great that you are beginning to feel so positive about the new school; and itâs lovely to hear that your son is loving it so much that he didnât want to break up for half-term (I mean that in the kindest / nicest way possible!) Your second point is a salutary lesson for even the most experienced adopters among us: our children can and do know what is best for them (sometimes!) and itâs a brave parent who can ignore the societal pressures of busy-ness with clubs/groups etc to appreciate the need of our children just to be and be at home and be close to us, when they need to. Itâs wonderful to have these insights, isnât it? Sometimes, sitting back and reflecting can feel like a luxury when weâre so used to reacting and firefighting, but I think itâs these insights into our childrenâs- and our own behaviours - that move us forward as adoptive parents.
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Johanna
October 24, 2018 00:25
Glad he is settling in school and returning to an activity he enjoys ... It is good news and your insights show your love and great understanding. Thank you for sharing. Johanna x
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createamum
October 24, 2018 06:27
Great news about the school, itâs such a weight off your shoulders when they are settled. Your right about them knowing when they need to step back from things, glad heâs gone back to canoeing.
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Bigmrs
October 24, 2018 08:55
Thank you everyone! Have a good day xx
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Bigmrs
October 24, 2018 08:58
Thank you everyone! Have a good day xx
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