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We have had letterbox contact for 10 years with our daughters adopted siblings. Initially twice a year with video but reduced by them to one letter a year.Back in December the adopted children contacted our daughter (their youngest sibling) and their older non adopted siblings through Facebook. They insisted it be kept secret from their parents until they were ready to tell them. After 3 months I decided to contact their parents to let them know about it and as a result the parents took on board that their children wanted contact and we had a meet up.Now the adoptees are not responding to my daughters messages and she is struggling to understand why. I contacted adoptive mum with a request for her children to reply now and then and she promised to speak to them about it.I really wish they had left things as they were even though my daughter did want increased contact. Its hard for her to see them being active on facebook and deliberately ignoring her.Not much I can do about it but it highlights that its not always birth family who rock the boat (we are the birth family), sometimes its the adoptees!