Our adopted son has had problems at school since the beginning , from what we have been told it’s mainly been playground incidents.We have always tried to work with the school in how to manage any issues .
We have some issues at home over the years, fluctuating behaviours that are not always present. Argumentative , demanding and Fighting with his sibling. Quite shouty and Banging things , slamming doors etc. If not got his own way about something . Controlling behaviour , however we have always muddled through and managed it the best we can at the time. Not 100% sure what is normal for his age (7 yrs).But have started to look at adhd referral.
He is Quite intelligent , but at the same time doesn’t seem to know the correct way to behave at times - I think attention seeking behaviour.
Fast forward to the last few weeks and he has been displaying ( according to the school) some behaviour that they are seeing as sexualised behaviour , which we do not and have never seen at home or with friends ! Pointing at his private area and apparently has said a phrase that we can’t believe has come from him !
He has had bullying at the school and this all started when this began. It is some of the bullies that have accused him of this. The school do not seem to think these other children are in the wrong.
To add to this he used some swear words that unfortunately he had heard at home ! Again never said these before in his life !
So the outcome is The school has logged us with social services due to the nature of his actions !
He won’t tell us anything that has happened at school , so we can only go on what the school are saying.
Has anyone experienced anything like this before and how should we move forward with the school ?
We have had post adoption advice , who said it was over the top of the school to do this however they understood that they probably felt they had to. They think that there are no problems at home and that the school are not doing what they need to to protect and support our son with regulation in the school environment.
I feel our trust has been broken and it will be hard to trust the school going forward to know what the right thing to do is.
Any advice would be welcome .
Thanks