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Hi all Writing to you about our adopted son Partridge who is nearly 23. The thing is emotionally/ mentally in many ways he isn’t 23. He’s maybe 14/15 ish... he lies constantly and gets himself into a whirl of messes. Now when he was at school - and actually was 14, I could to a degree go in, uncover the majority of the truth and attempt to put it right so he could continue. He’d often lie about having no work, loosing his stuff etc when it was all there in his locker (lost the key of course) Together with school we’d agree a list of things to do to dig himself out of the hole. I’d do this each term. The problems became much more marked when he went to college and despite his dx, clear vulnerabilities and frankly being under 18... college were rubbish at sharing information with us at home. So he failed a course, scraped another and his sexual/ emotional messes ruined his time there. He has had several jobs and of course has a very screwed up gf. That he lies to. She’s paranoid which isn’t a help But he’s such a young young lad. He’s silly. Boasts lots about his mega expertise which he doesn’t really have. He’s now looking for a new job having lost his previous job due to lying, sicky taking and other unsuitable behaviours for a really long time Partridge is applying for new jobs. He’s got no idea how to conduct himself in interview properly. He’s just very silly and then tells lots of lies. He won’t listen or take on support for this My parents said Partridge is noticing how very young his fellow interviewees are (often 16yr olds) and he feels he should be doing something better. So he’s applied at the bowling alley and the co-op but also for a town planning job because it offered £56k a year... Does anyone have any advice about how you manage the age gap/ maturity ? Also ideas to help re interviews?