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newbie with some questions
lilicedgems
January 15, 2010 22:33
Hi theremyself and my partner are in a same sex relationship, we have been together for almost 5 years now. We have one child which my partner carried, we are both white britsh and our soon is bi racial african and white britsh. we are interested in adopting (when our son is a bit older) and we were wondering what the rules are in regards to adopting children on differnt herritage to ourselves? we understand that its usual to match adoptive parents with adoptive children of the same herritage but in our case surely that would just make our adoptive child feel more isolated in our family? Appreciate any comments, thank you
lilicedgems
January 16, 2010 22:03
Anybody?
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selg
January 18, 2010 22:44
HiI'm afraid I don't know anything about how the LAs and VAs will place your family, but I wanted to let you know that my DH is mixed race - white mum and Carribean dad, as his mum was married to his dad for 2 years when she was very young. She then went on to marry a white guy and had another son who is obviously white. DH dad hasn't known him while he was growing up so DH has grown up in an essentially white family, and in a white area too (he was one of 2 mixed race people at his secondary school). And - wait for it - he's absolutely fine, he knows he is loved by his family even though it's not conventional.Funnily enough, his little brother thought for years that if anybody had an older brother they would be 'brown' like his!!! One of the best quotes from him has to be 'Rory's brother is white not brown!' on the school steps before saying 'hello'! (Another was 'What are pubic (pronounced pub-ic) hairs?' after reading a non-age appropriate growing up book!)Hope this sets your mind at rest.Selg
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jeb
January 20, 2010 22:22
hi I've sent you a pmjeb
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lilicedgems
January 21, 2010 17:39
Selg: Thank you for you support and at you BILs comments as a kid!!Garden: thank you for you experience, its a shame that your friends were unable to adopt an ethnically matching child, but at least they found a way around it. Do you have to pay to adopt a child from another country? Thank youJeb: Replied
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thespouses
January 21, 2010 17:49
Re adoption from overseas, yes, you do have to pay - you pay the costs of the VA or LA who is assessing you - it is similar to when an LA pays a VA or another LA who's approved you, for their time etc.
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lilicedgems
January 30, 2010 18:33
And what sort of cost is that? Thank you
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