My AD is 14. She moved in with us when she was 6. There have been a few occasions in the last two years where we realised that she was stealing money from us and shoplifting. I was with her on two occasions this year when she shoplifted ! My younger AD alerted me to the last time.
I know my AD is likely to shoplift tomorrow before school. What do I do? I can’t stop her going into shops on the way to school. She will deny having shoplifted before and any intention to do so in the future. It’s likely to be down to her lack of impulse control. She is already under CAMHS for depression and low mood with traits of attachment disorder. She hasn’t started any therapy yet but it’s being worked on.
I’m sure many of you out there have either gone through this or are going through it now. What’s worked? What have you tried in the face of self righteous indignation and denial? How do you avoid the Shield of Shame being triggered?