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Oh forgot to add Miss and "dreamy" have moved house, and have given us the new address. I wonder why now???Its rented, and then I heard a description of the interior. and how, "dreamy" cleans upstairs and she cleans down. I think the word rollocks comes to mind!!.Love Darcy xx

I am delighted for you and for her that she had the courage to ring.her life is not what you dreamed of for her-she may be in a relationship that is not the easiest or best for her.she has obviously found the last few months very stressful-being threatened by AWOL and moving house etcShe sounds like she is wanting to build bridges and try to re-establish a relationship with you . it will be hard -I have no idea how you will feel if she comes round tomorrow-how sad it will be -how hard it will be to avoid rows etc. but she obvously misses you. maybe by saying she wants to go back to college she is acknowledging she wants to move on with her life.I know though, that is hard to accept that this is where our children are-as you know our second child now in his 20s has been homeless for a month -sofa surfing with different people. over the years he has done many things to us, stolen ( including taking our car and burning out the engine) been aggressive, abusive, lied etc etc.he tel me last night to ask for advice on how to keep his temper and to ask if he can turn his life around after messing up so badly. he knows he will have to go for counselling and therapy to begin to heal. I dont know if he will have the courage.But I do know he will need support if he is to move on in life. we continue to meet him every couple of weeks away from home.this may be only a very thin plank to use to build a bridge between you and ms darcy. she must realise how much you love her -hold on to that.I hope it goes well tomorrow

Thank you Step for your kindness. I know you have been through alot. We are not holding our breath as she has to bike to us, as she has no transport. My ultimate goal is to get her a place of her own and away from "dreamboat".We are here for you step too.Love Darcy xx

It is quite likely that Miss D will not show up tomorrow, but she has made a contact, which does show that she still wants to be in touch. I guess you are right, there will be an amount of fantasy in what she has told you, but any communication is better than none.Hopefully you will be able to say just the right amount to her - enough to show that you care very much, enough to show that you are sad that she might be making poor choices, enough to show her that she is worth better things. But not so much that the barriers are put back up.What a tightrope you are walking!Queenie

thank you Queenie for your caring too. We will see. I wondered if it is a money thing also. If so she is wasting her time. As for a tightrope, I am a seasoned circus performer didn't you know!!!Love Darcy xx

Well I am pleased to read that she is at least coming to her senses a little and trying to build some bridges in her funny way.I hope she does make the effort and come over- it would be a good thing I think.How awful for you to hear about AWOL behaving this way! Really shocking.I wonder if mr Darcy and Grandpa might peel off mr Dreamboat and have some words for him while you and miss D have some time in the other room?I guess it all hinges on whether she turns up.I wont tell you to not worry or think about it too much as I know that you will not be exactly restful until the day is over- whatever happens.Its nice that she is thinking about college and seeing more of you at least.All in all a positive IMO- but ever the whirlwind of emotions for you Darcy.LovePear Tree

mr and mrs Dbrill. only wanted to say that is she turns up and if dreamboat is in tow - I totally agree with meno, reverse pcychology all the way, even to the extent of having a few bridal mags over the kitchen table !! That might do the trick for both of them !!!!jellies

Fruitcake,Hello and so nice to hear from you again. I just feel every emotion you can do, and know that Miss will not turn up, its just pie in the sky, or is it in our eye.Love Darcy xx

Enid,I feel that we have a the male and female equivalent of a "whole" person if you see what I mean!! Where did the children go that myself and Mr D brought up once??Love Darcy xx

Peary,I hope that she is wanting to build bridges, but we have been here before, remember last year. I am coming to see you blah blah blah!!.Love Darcy xx

meno,That made me laugh, are yes good old dreamy, I was thinking of leaving Mr D for the womdrful, handsome, loving individual that he is.... Oh gosh off to the vomitarium.Love Darcy xx

Jellies, Like the bridal mag idea, mind you the a..hole might think we are coming to the wedding, or worse still will pay for it.Love Darcy xx

Sorry everyone, wheres my manners. Thank you to all the other posters. All this support is really very very kind. xxxxxxLove Darcy xxPS I am here for you all xx

oh Darcy i have been following your posts for a little while, let us know how it goes won't you, i have to say that i do like the idea of the bridal mags out (sorry wicked sense of humour) no offence intended.

Where do I start. I have no idea really. Miss Darcy came, her em "landlord" bought her??. The day went very well. But shall we say it was hard to separate fact from erm fiction!!. You know what I mean don't you.Miss D said she was nervous, and had been awake since 5 o'clock. Mind you, I think that was something to do with the fact that she is having problems with her wisdom teeth. So we went to the chemist, and the chemist, who started out life as would you believe a dental nurse. Checked her teeth, and gave her two lots of painkillers.The upshot is that tomorrow (as she has no dentist) we are taking her to NHS Direct!!.I do not know if we have done right or wrong, but we have given her some of her stuff that we kept, like the TV she bought for her room and the computer she bought, and CD's etc.Her clothes have gone and bike and other stuff etc.We also have met "dreamboat" as we dropped her off at her erm "home". NO COMMENT. This is not what I wanted for my daughter, he has no teeth, no job, and looks about 100.Yes he was polite and pleasant enough, but so where we??? I feel so false and ashamed of myself when what I really wanted to say was eff off!!!.Your welcome here anytime he said!!Also the erm "lodger" who is living with them is a lad I used to teach???? Oh my god!!!She has very little. No phone, hardly anything.So myself and Mr D have offered to purchase a cheap phone for her tomorrow, and grandma Darcy has offered to buy her some trainers. Have we done the right thing, I think we are being used, and Miss D thinks we don't know.But I am not doing it for anyone but Miss D, because we are here parents. Does that make any sense???Miss D is self harming.Miss D also said that she had been thinking about things and realised that she did not treat us right, and that we had given her a home and love, something she had not had before. Would you believe she also said she was sorry.Now are we being told what we want to hear or is it just pie in the bloody sky again?I have felt every emotion today, and I feel absolutely drained at present, and totally sad and upset!!.Love Darcy xx

english, He has been married twice before, oh my goodness.Love Darcy xx

Yes she did come, and it went very well Enid.Love Darcy xx

Thank you Muzza.Love Darcy xx

Hi Darcy,Glad she showed up.Here's hoping that you can start to rebuild your relationship with her.Take careTiny