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Hello everyone,I have a friend whose birth child was diagnosed with Aspergers/High functioning autism when he was in nursery/reception. He is now in yr 5. Here are some of the bits I know:- I am a lay person ref. this topic but read up about the various symptoms and to me this lad does not seem to have them. (i.e. language skills are fine, social interactions are fine even if younger than his age, he is compassionate, does not have repetitive behaviours and is not particularly obsessed with anything etc.)- boy had a major heart operation as a baby due to hole in heart- in reception boy could only stay in class for half days as he got too tired to last the whole stretch till 3pm. Only started whole days in yr 1. I think this might have to do with his heart problem?- boy wet bed until recently and wet his pants every day in class resulting in him having ''his own chair'' as it was always weed on, a whole lot of ridicule from everyone etc.- boy seems immature for his age i.e. emotionally younger than his 9yrs (about 2yrs younger) which gives him the corresponding problems...getting bullied, ridiculed etc.- at school he refuses to do e.g. maths to the point where the teacher is unable to gauge his ability / at home he does not do his homework and if he does on the odd occasion it is due to being pressurised by his desperate parents who in my opinion don''t do a good job communicating with him / mother says that her relationship with this boy is broken- he often used rude language which I think he must have picked up from the TV. His parents dont use such language at all. In year 1 he was supposed to write a postcard supposedly from a holiday by the beach and all he wrote was "the teacher is a stupid bixch!" Pretty articulate for a year 1 child. Now of course other kids have caught up on rude stuff so he learns more from his class mates.- he used to be ahead with his acadamics but the older he got the less people were able to assess as he was more and more unwilling to show his knowledge and hence he is supposedly below average. His mother says though that if he does want to do it he can.- he seems a bit obsessed with his willy and boyfriend/girlfriend issues (I think this is just to gain attention as he backs down if I don''t react to it but just pretend it is all normal/not interesting etc.)- his mum is totally obsessed with the fact that he is too short for his age, not being up to scratch etc. and states such things in his hearing (I advised her against it / bit unfortunate really as our lads are tall for their age and our younger son is taller than him).In my personal assessment from what I know of boy he is a smart cookie how does know his maths/literacy but who only shows it when he feels like it. Also, he loathes praise e.g. as a nursery child before he put the last piece into a puzzle he stated "Don''t praise me when I put the last piece in"...etc.I think due to the fact that he was such a poorly baby his mother overprotected him which in my opinion lead up to him being a spoilt mollycoddled boy who held on to old coping mechanisms like crying for the littlest things, whining to get his will, interrupting and demanding he be heard NOW etc.In the mean time the school said he should be on something called School Action Plus but they cannot provide it as they have no money. Hence nothing is done for him and this lad is bullied daily, has a bad relationship with his parents due to his refusal to do his school work, he has no friends except our kids who bear with him as I tell them to be patient with him and our younger son who is 2 years younger is well suited to play with him.So my question to you who know this kind of thing:- what can the parents do to get School Action Plus? (demand it/change school where it is given... ??) After all they DO have this high functioning diagnosis from some doctor as well. The mother is a foreigner and a bit shy also due to the fact that her English is not great. The father is English but he does not seem to have achieved anything for him at school and now yells at boy when he does homework with him (attempts it anyway).- what do you all think judging by the above list? Spoilt, affected by heart operation, Aspergers, just emotionally delayed?Thanks guys.Puffle