Our DS (4) will be having his 4th Christmas in a 4th different family. He has been with us 9 months.
This week he told me that he "wanted a bad Christmas". When I explored this further lots of tangled up fears came out, fear santa won't know where he lives, fears santa will forget him, fears santa won't fit down our chimney, fears about santa being in the house, and I suspect fears he isn't "good" enough for santa (this last one is me making a guess).
Basically santa has a lot to answer for! So I am cross at santa. Why do we persist in this myth when it is clearly damaging our traumatised children?
One part of me wants to defy social pressure to buy into the myth and just tell him santa doesn't exist, but my OH would not go for this.
Any advice?
(He coped remarkably well with his birthday recently, so this seems to be specific to the hype of Christmas)