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Hi I'm not a muslim but a single white adopter of a dual heritage boy.Just a few thoughts really. I had a very christian unbringing, was taken to sunday school, church etc, attened a church school. As an adult I have no 'active ' faith.I neither actively encourage or discourage my son where religion is concerned, schools today look at all religions and their various festivals, my son goes to cubs which has a religious element, we 'do' Christmas and diwali, I try to answer questions about god and religion generally, he recently got an award he did for a piece of work called 'my faith'There are lots of things an adoptive child could resent you for - this is only one. I don't think there is anything wrong in bringing a child up within a moral code or belief system, as long as when they get to age when they might quesion, they are not forced to follow something they might not believe inIn my view the religion most people follow is really an accident of birth, not an active choice. With that hotch potch of a cultrural background, your potential LO could have been born into anyone of a number of religions or cultures.You are offering this child a stable, loving home, which is what they need, in my view that you are Muslim and he is not is not really that important

We are church going christians and told social work that we would take our son with us to church till he was old enough to decide for himself. They didn't have a problem with that. I doubt very much that your religion will be a problem to your child, its just part of you, and he can reject that or not as he grows up to make his own decisions in life.No reason that he should resent that as long us he is not forced into anything he is uncomfortable with as he gets to teenage years.Best wishesPingu.

I am a single adopter and have dual heritage children, Pakistani and English. They have had no contact with the Pakistani or Muslim part of their family and their mother did not specify any religion for them to be brought up in. I am Christian and they attend church with me. Mine are older than yours and I wouldn't say they are Christian, just that I am bringing them up in a Christian way. However, they are at school with many Muslim children and my step children from my ex husband are Muslim and the 2 sets of children spend alot of time together.If you are the right parents for that child your child will become part of your life and part of what you do including your religious observances. How will your extended family react to you having a child who was not born a Muslim?

Hi there,Just say that if your username is your real name, it might be a good idea to change it. This forum is open to the public. So anyone can read it. Most people use nicknames to protect their identities.I would echo what others have said. My LO's father has different religion to mine. For me, as LO is still young he comes he joins in with me with regards to religion. But once old enough, then it will be his decision to decide. I also hope to help him find out more about his father's religion if he is interested as he gets older.I think the key thing, is that LO is given freedom as they grow up.Best wishes Minnie x

When I mention father - I mean his birth father. Sorry, its late and my brain isn't working very well.

I have a son from a Taoist background been brought up Christian, hasn't been an issue, tho he does have learning disability as well. but as others have said, religion is just one thing that any child could rebel against, I wouldn't worry too much. my two eldest birth children rebelled against their Christian upbringing, but the adopted one hasn't!

It seems pretty common for children to be placed with parents who will raise them in a slightly different religion from their birth family.I'm a bit surprised though that you were matched with a child whose parents did not specify religion, when it seems quite common for children from Muslim families to need adopters, but there is a lack of Muslim adopters (even those who are only somewhat religious).

Hi i was a foster carer for over 7 years before we choose adoptio and i can say that most children in care unless teenagers will not have been brought up with in the religion of birth as most foster carers will be of a diffrent background they will of course do there best but i would say your child will only resent you if your either ultra Religous or try and force it on them Have you ever watched east is east part of the childrens rejection of there faith was there farthers insistance they they observe the faith to the letter How about raising the child with out a label of faith and letting them choose when there older The thing is you could wait for a child whos birth parents id as muslim but they could be living a life that you would not recognise as islam And to be fair a child whos parents id as muslim but the child has been living with a white christan family form birth will not id as a muslim child and will likey id with the family that raised them