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Dunno!
jobones
January 29, 2013 22:26
Where do I start?!Basic rundown is, We adopted baby doll 5yrs ago age 2.5 very successful adoption. She has dev delay, autistic tendancies and dyspraxia we then adopted her 1/2 sib 9 myths ago age 17 mths who has dev delay behaviour issues and a chromosome disorder (which baby doll will need to be tested for Also) so far just as successful! then at Christmas my nan had a massive stroke and the only thing she can do independently is breath, she has lost all mobility, speech, independence my mum has just been diagnosed with skin cancer too(absolutely curable and not life threatening).Basically I am struggling and dunno where to turn, I have huge guilt issues because I no longer give my daughter the attention she used to get, I feel guilty because my son does not get the attention my daughter used to get. I am grieving for someone who is still alive, I am worried for my mum and have no idea how I get through this I am usually a happy go lucky easy going person and now I find myself irritable and moody, I stay up after hubby goes to bed so that I can cry in private (no-one knows how I feel) I cannot talk to anyone because I am always the strong one, always the shoulder for others! and don''t know how to open up. How go I get to a better place
Sparkys6887
February 17, 2013 01:34
Sounds like your having a really tough time and that's it's difficult being vulnerable and in need of support when YOU are the tough one.I so relate to what you are saying! Though being the strong one can be a real drag sometimes. Would you consider a short period of counselling to help you understand and process these difficult emotions? If you are able to find a way of having these 'normal' emotions and reactions witnessed I'm sure it will help. Try to remember it not just what you do it's what you do next. You can always explain to your children that mummy is having a hard time and that she'll be ok. It would be a great gift for them and maybe they could avoid being 'strong' in the future??? For me realizing the paradox that actually the strongest, toughest thing for me to do as a parent was recognize my limitations, acknowledge my vulnerabilities and (an ongoing challenge) ask for help when I needed it.I'll be thinking of you.
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