Apologies to all,
I was too sleepy (or a bit lazy) to get my facts before posting hence “let’s call it approach” which is not the name.
The real name of the approach is “Collaborative and Proactive Solutions” by Dr Ross Greene. I firstly read his book “The Explosive Child” (Audible) and then attended one of his courses (on line from the USA).
It is a way of exploring and working out solutions to specific problems a child/family maybe encountering taking into account the child skills (not what he/she “should” be doing), specific problems, the child and parent expectations and concerns and coming up with a plan (he calls it Plan B). This is a very (and I mean very) short explanation of what it is.
He has used this approach with kids with different diagnosis like ASD, ADHD, FASD, ODD, Attachment disorder, developmental trauma to name a few. What matters is not the diagnosis but understanding what are the lagging skills that lead a child to have the behaviour they are having. In this case fear.
Having said all of that I would agree with Safia that this might be an opportunity to engage with therapy. The way we’ve been going about it is by using the Adoption Support Fund (ASF) managed by the post adoption SW. Have you ever been in contact with them?
This is the link to the ASF. https://www.gov.uk/guidance/adoption-support-fund-asf
Hope this is helpful.
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