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Newly adopted children with signs on facebook
doubletrouble
January 10, 2016 13:15
I have just seen another of these photos that someone has put up of their newly adopted children - twins I think. One has a sign saying 'been in Foster care 900+ days. the other has a sign saying 'Adopted today giving the date. I find these very uncomfortable viewing, I presume they are American with the amount of god bless you comments! And of course loads of comments about how lucky the children are! I really don't like it as I find it very uncomfortable seeing such venerable children with signs hung round their necks. What does everyone else think?
Haven
January 10, 2016 14:58
I haven't seen any, but it sounds horrendous!
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yellowduck
January 10, 2016 15:01
I have just seen the same and it made me feel very uncomfortable too. We need to remember that adoption is about both loss and gain. While it is to be celebrated that they have found a loving home, there will always be deep down a sense of loss, grief and abandonment. When people put these sort of photos on social media, it is all about them - "look what a wonderful thing we have done as adopters!". Now everyone looks at these children with pity, sympathy and curiosity which is not a good place for these children to start as they face the world.
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doubletrouble
January 10, 2016 16:01
That's it Yellow duck. It's like advertising how wonderful they are - lots of comments like 'you will be rewarded in haven'!!!!! I have no idea what these children will think when they realise that so many people have seen them on face book and know them as the poor adopted kids.
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Donatella
January 10, 2016 16:06
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/topics/christmas/12039183/A-couple-surprised-their-daughters-with-an-adopted-baby-brother-under-the-Christmas-tree.html This one really left me slack jawed!
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Gilbertus
January 10, 2016 17:23
Yep I have seen a few of these. As an adoptee as well as an adopter it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Number one because the baby has suffered a loss. Number 2 behind the story is a grieving birth family. Number 3 its done in America to enhance the holy ego. And I bet your bottom dollar that the newborn baby that they so generously gave a home too is not from FC or born addicted to drugs etc or has any health issues, its a relinquished baby from a middle class family that they paid many $ for to a private lawyer. Rant over! With all its faults our system is far superior in moral standards G
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doubletrouble
January 10, 2016 20:54
Only in America!!! The mother's comment about being blessed by God or words to that affect is one of the things the really grates with me. What in heck has God got to do with it - you paid someone to take their relinquished baby. Some of my quite sensible friends are sharing these posts and I just feel like shaking them.
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nessa 76
February 27, 2016 18:14
This is dreadful, like the adopted baby is a present to them. I bet deep down its all about the parents with only their interests at heart. Hear them saying it's a baby boy? Bet it's only because she has girls, no consideration for the baby's loss of his BM! Sickening, imo
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