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Today I watched as you fell in Love with someone else
Wriggles
August 25, 2012 11:38
When we met I knew I was not the right one for you,knew I could not offer you everything you needed and deserved and so I tried to hold back,to protect myself from falling for you,to be professional BUT you looked at me with those big brown eyes,trusted me, giggled that infectious giggle and I was smitten and knew I would love you unconditionally no matter what the future held for us.And we had a great time, I celebrated each new achievement, encouraged you to try new things and shared your wonder and excitment as you did, I laughed with you,fought your corner for you, held you when you cried and sometimes cried for you. And I know you loved me as much as I did you although I did so with a heavy heart knowing it wouldn''t last.Then there was a new woman in your life at first you were unsure of each other and nervous and you looked to me to see if I approved and because I knew she could offer you everything I couldnt I gave you my blessing and as the days went on you became more comfortable with each other. Finally when something made you smile you shared it with her,and when you cried it was her you went to for comfort and I knew in that bittersweet moment I had lost you. And so my beautiful baby girl as you leave me your FC to go live with your forever family do it knowing that no matter how much it hurts to let you go I would not have changed a moment of our time together. Do it knowing that I want this for you more than anything and that I know this gives you the opportunity to have the happy, loving fulfilling future that you deserve. Do it knowing that I will never forget you but wont mind if you forget me.As for me next time I will protect myself,next time I wont get ''too attached'' next time I will be professional EXCEPT I have just met a new man and he has big brown eyes and an infectious giggle and although he has only been here a few weeks I think I am smitten...............
WHNM
August 25, 2012 11:52
Oh Wriggles, that brought a tear to my eye. What loving care, what a lucky FC to have you in their lives. I do hope that you have a good relationship with the APs and that you can share this with them, I know it would mean so much to any AP to know how nurtured their child was in FC.Thank you for sharing and good luck with your new man. X
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Imp
August 25, 2012 12:04
Thank you Wriggles for putting into words what happens to me every time we have little ones, and then move them on to the rest of their lives. You have expressed it so well.Enjoy your new little man, and the many others who will share your life--at the most vulnerable time in their lives. xx
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regoleto
August 25, 2012 13:22
ohhhhh Wriggles one of the most beautiful, selfless and poignant message I have read.Thank you for it and thank you for you xx
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ADOPTER
August 25, 2012 15:30
This is a lovely post.My ad came with a similar letter from her fm and it's lovely for my ad to read now that she is older. She dosent remember her just as it says but it's lovely for her to know that she was loved whilst in her care.
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inlimbo
August 25, 2012 20:52
Hi, i am posting under the heading 'birth relative' on the Adopters Messageboard. My grandchild is with a FC at the moment. An amazing lady who looks after the Little One with tenderness. I never thought for one moment that i would be in the situation i find myself in, but, if my path ever had to cross with anyone, i feel fortunate that it was with this lady. My love to you for opening up your heart and home, probably time and time again, when help and support is needed x inlimbo
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jmk
August 26, 2012 11:58
Wriggles you have just made me cry. What a beautiful post. Your LO is so lucky to have had you as a FC and you have given her the best start she could ever have had, the unconditional love that she should have had with her BM. Her new Mum is such a lucky lady and hopefully she will continue to cherish and love your LO as you have done so wonderfully.Honestly I take my hat off to you FC's - I don't know how you do it, but am so glad that you do.Hugs to you
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Donatella
August 26, 2012 23:11
Ah wriggles, that is so lovely. Hard for you but heartwarming at the same time.I still have a very good relationship with middlys fm . She'd moved babies in before middly and quite a few since but she still talks about the time that middly and I clapped eyes on each other. And she knew from that very first meeting that it would be okay. And that there was an instant connection. She saw it in him - as if it to say, okay, now I'm home. And he's been challenging and flipping hard work but because we had that connection from the off we've battled through everything. Big hugs, grieve your loss and love the next one. And attach - because you will!
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Wriggles
August 29, 2012 13:39
Thanks for all your comments - my LO moved on today to her lovely new family and they have said they will keep in touch so finger crossed. Main thing is that she seemed very happy to be with them and I hope I have given her a start that allows her to attach to them in time. Now I have to pull myself together to look after my little man and prepare for anotherlot of intros in three weeks for my other little girl so onward and upward
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loadsofbubs
August 29, 2012 15:03
a bit too close to home right now! but eleoquently put and so true. i think sometimes that people think i am hard hearted to to do this job but they dont see the all the little, and some not so little, holes in my heart scabbing over and then i do it all over again. good luck with the next lot of intros.
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Autumn Jade
September 8, 2012 08:21
So beautiful, it made me cry. Still crying, but wow, what an amazing job you do- hope you get some pleasure too from knowing you've been fundamental in turning life around for your LOs.
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Garden01
September 8, 2012 08:35
Yes.......beautifully written....We had an update from SW the other day about how one of our LO's was doing after adoption and I surprised myself with the emotion that showed itself......I sometimes think that FC's are underestimated and those outside do not realise that part of you is with them and always will be.....in a positive way......And for adoptive family to come along and keep it going....the LO's deserve that......lovely xx
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