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Hi Sportyglad you have found your way to the boards.I am sorry you are having such a hard timehave Cahms offered you any help and support?Have SS done a proper assessment of your needs? unfortunately they do not have to provide the support you need.Sending you hugs keep posting on here, there are lots of others on these boards that can provide far more practical advice than I can.please check these boards again tomorrow when others will have responded to your post.also give the AUK helpline a ring tomorrowThinking of youBest wishesNomad

Hi yes we are members and we called today we have to fill out a online form ,wil do it tomorrow

Hi sporty. You aren't alone, your son sounds a lot like mine. How old is he?Have CAMHS offered you therapy or a referral to a clinical psychiatrist? My boys see a therapist every week and also have medication which levels out their moods. Medication isn't the ideal solution and isn't right for everyone but it was a lifesaver for us.We have also had some theraplay sessons whch were very useful for improvng the relationshp we have with the boys.Hang in there and keep posting. There are lots of people here who understand.Greyspeckledhenxx

Just wondered if you have a local adoptioon support group? I find these boards to be a life saver and also meeting up with other adopters, generally for a sympathetic ear & to talk to others who understand.If you only adopted 4 years ago, I think you should be covered by one of the recent adoption acts to be able to get Post adoption Support, though since Baby P case, SS have been swamped with work, so funding is tight.Depending on the age of your children, there may be other sorces of support eg: local special needs groupshope you get through this & find the support you needl

Hello and welcome to a place where you are well understood and can expect support.I can remember when I started on here what a shocker it was that our childrens difficult behaviours were repeated all over the country within adoption.Im sure there are times that your lad is plain naughty but most of it is tangled up with the impacts of repeated trauma on the brain. I dont know how old he is but he lost everything the day he lost his birth family at the very least. Even if they were bad to him, he still lost everything he knew.My 2 were 6 and 4 when they came to me. On top of all that loss they had had too much of what they don't need and not enough of what they do. Repeated lots of times when the brain is developing causes a lot of problems.Have a read about it here-http://www.traumacenter.org/products/pdf_files/Preprint_Dev_Trauma_Disorder.pdfBlossom is now 12 and Partridge is 14. Blossom has severe RAD and Partridge has attachment difficulties (he is avoidant).We have had to change to use therapeutic reparenting and they have made slow prgress. It has also made life at home easier for all of us, although it is still hard, very hard sometimes.You do need considerable specialist support to live with a child with severe RAD. We have only just started to achieve this nearly 8 yrs in. Places you might consider looking into areFamily Futures in LondonCatchpoint in BristolThe Keys attachment centreSheffield attachment centreWe have our supports through our very good local camhs, with some input through specialist camhs for Blossom. She has twice weekly intensive psychotherapy funded through SS. (after a very very long fight).Wishing you all the best. You are in good company.Pear tree