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Forgot to say I'm a single female prospective adopter

Have you started the home study yet?

I've just got through stage one (2nd attempt)

That's positive, you're through the door! Are the difficulties you're experiencing in relation to the ms or just in general? Maybe we can help even if we don't have ms. There are loads of people with medical issues who are approved.

Thanks. It just seems that the adoption social workers don't want to take me on as they can't predict how my health will deteriorate in the future. I've had letters written from my consultant and specialist nurse which has just got me through stage one. So I was advised to find out about other's experiences to see if they could help me through stage two and ultimately panel.

Google: can you adopt if you have ms? I saw quickly some interesting results, I'm in the swimming pool so have no time to search through relevant sites as my son has just finished and we need to go home.

My husband has MS but it didn't cause us any difficulties really. But he has had only infrequent attacks that have nearly completely resloved so far, plus he has me! We were asked about it quite a lot at panel and he had to be seen by another social worker to make sure we weren't lying about his fitness. I think they will just want to check that firstly you could cope now and secondly you could cope if you became suddenly or gradually disabled or unable to work etc.

Thanks. I think that's the main problem, that Im on my own.

So you need to be able to answer those questions, not just to sw but to yourself. I find it hard to cope with my kids when I have the flu for 10 days- i have a husband but he cant take time off for that long at short notice to look after us. I cannot ask my mum to help out for that long-term she also provides childcare for my sister's kids. My kids hate it when I'm ill- dd especially really plays up if she senses my weakness! What would you do if You had a relapse lasting a month or so?

Hi, I don’t have ms but do have other disabling conditions. Please do think about your positives and what you have to offer. So you have developed a myriad of coping strategies. Have a list of things you can do and how you think round problems. You might find that voluntary agencies are more able to see your positives and balance out what you can offer in your profile The actual living as a single person with a child who has a less than ideal/ traumatic start in life is a big big subject. You’ll need to take great care of yourself

Thanks everyone. I have confidence in myself and have a lot of experience, also i do have a good support network, it's just getting everyone to see that and thought it'd be good to see if there was anyone who'd been in a similar situation.