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The usual story, overcompliant child (10) in school (only!), and the great thing is would you believe it, he's now (because of this 'fantastic’ school) cured from his ptsd and anxiety disorder! Anyone else a traumatised kid? I'll be happy to share their address as they 'cure' children in less than one year, lol. No idea since when teachers can take away a diagnosis, or are indeed experts in ptsd and related trauma's. But I'm open minded, yeah..... Well the point I am is making if he's so relaxed in school and feels safe, why has he not made any measurable progress than? We all know this is because of his ptsd, his anxiety, feeling unsafe etc. We know that overcompliance is just one way of coping. I told them they say he pays good attention but in reality all he does is keeping an good eye on the teacher, after all this needs to be done as any danger is likely to come from her direction. Apparently what they see is the truth, he has no other side, I told them his home behaviours but I guess they are there because I am the sloppy parent who has no idea, lol. So very familiair for a lot of you, I need back up, preferable articles about trauma through neglect/ separation/ traumatic events (hospitalisation, abandonment, adoption, institutionalisation, etc) in the early years (well 6 years in his case) and how this works through in overcompliance, poor accademic results, emotional delays, attachment disorder, concentration problems, etc, etc. That neglect can not just be 'overcome', that those kids carrying this burden their whole life really. I told them in an email if they, what they suggest, even for one minute think I am the cause of his problems, I can no longer work together with them. So now they say they're too busy for a talk, it will be after the holidays, fine to me as it gives time to prepaire the 'case'. And everyone important (the psych etc) is invited so that is good. I pressume they are getting nervous as no progress is absolute not acceptable, well not in my books for a child what does not have a learning disability. They are the school, and one what is an expert in children with behavioural problems and slow learners, I told them so, if he's so normal and relaxed why can you as experts not learn him anything while at home he's making progress in the programmes I do with him? So anyone who stood in my shoes, which article did they understood? It need to be simple as the 'experts' are a bit thick there, I gave them loads of info, (including from professionals in the adoption field) but apparently that can be burned now as they see no trauma and he's just normal. Lucky me! :-) I do wonder why I live in an closed institution at home, with locked doors, alarmed doors, strict routines, etc. Other small inconviniences are that he is pying in his toy boxes, that he always lies and steals, that I can not hug him without forcing him because he always pushes me away, that every touch hurt him, that he can never be left alone without getting into trouble, that he still rocks and dissociated, etc, etc.