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I don't really understand why your ex should be involved in any care of an adopted child? Lots of divided families go on to have other children?However, having said, they would interview him and would take into account his feelings about how any adopted child would figure in his child's life. I don't think anyone is suggesting that he in any way will be parenting a new child but he will have to be reasonably supportive and accommodating. How does he feel about his child having an adopted sibling? His views will be considered, as will your child's. If he is completely anti his child having an adopted sibling then it could cause difficulties. Can you talk to him about it?

Thank you for replying! My ex isn't particularly happy about it but he's good enough not to be negative or nasty about it. I'm so disappointed that it comes down to his opinion, he would rather me go out and get pregnant so the child doesn't come with "baggage" in his world BC are perfect! My bs is 11 and his dad lives in the same village so most of the time my son walks to his dads so don't actually see him.I'm soooo confused x

as Donatella stated he would be spoken too. But in families created by adoption each child can have different contact arrangements that have to be accommodated. So it can be done.My adopted children all all full siblings but has evolved that they all have different arrangements with their half siblings placed else where.I also have a birth child who has no interest in meeting the half siblings.

Thank you I appreciate it x x x