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How exciting!I'm a little bit surprised your son is going along on the first day as social workers normally build other family members into day 3/4 in my experience. Day 1 can be a bit daunting for everyone. I'd suggest taking along a small present (cuddly toy or small books go down well) for your son to give his new sister, and have something for her to give him too. Be prepared to taken him out for a break if it gets too much - a couple of hours sounds nothing to an adult but its ages to a 3 year old in a strange house.Don't forget your camera! And maybe let your son take some pictures?

Perhaps take some bubbles to blow in the garden - can your son blow at 3? if so then he could blow them for the baby. Also peekaboo. should provide a few lovely photos too.Congratulations & good luck

Will go to shops with our boy tomorrow and get some bubbles and a prezzie, maybe a balloon?Later in the week, when we're spending whole days at the fc's house, DS will stay home with my mom who's coming over to help out during intros.Thanks guys,Witch

I hope you have a wonderful couple of hours with your new baby tomorrow Witch, I'm sure your son will adore his baby sister! 2 weeks for us before we meet our baby girl, so excited . Please keep us informed (if you have any energy left!!!).

Hope your introductions go well and that a positive bond between your two children forms quickly. Love the idea of gifts for each other.Bop

Nursery rhymes..Round and round the garden, This little piggy..You can do them together as a family..Hope that you have a wonderful first day together!Swimchic

Our ad was 4 when we met our new baby. We didn't involve her in the initial couple of days of intros which was a mistake. She got very upset about this, and when we realised we involved her immediately and she was delighted. So personally I would try and involve your son as much as possible throughout the process. I remember we did a lovely trip to the park. My husband then took her home and I stayed to do the evening routine. From about day 3 the intros moved to our house, which was easier all round.We did an exchange of presents between the kids which worked really well...my ad then "borrowed" most of his teddies over coming days and weeks!! Very exciting xxx

I do hope your first visit has gone well My elder two were involved from day 2 which as just right for us and them. They can be quite full on so it gave us a day to get to know LO a little bit first before introducing them before they started to get to jealous. I have heard a lot of people say they wished older children had been involved sooner as it built up lots of jealousy and resentment before they had even met their new sibling. Good luck with the rest of intros