Hi all, it has been some years since I last posted. So much so that I've had to re-register! Anyway our dd is now 17, at college and has a boyfriend of 4 months. She has been the victim of some coercive behaviour at school from a boy. Serious enough for us to call the police, monitor her phone messaging and remove the camera app from it.
As you can imagine we are on high alert now that she has a boyfriend. We check her messages every night and she and her boyfriend are now talking about having sex the next time she is at his house. He lives an hour by car from us. She has no way of getting there - we live in the countryside - unless we take her or he meets her in town to catch a bus (she would not know how to catch a bus on her own). He is an ok lad and very similar to her. I do not think that he is pressuring her. It is a mutual thing.
I am a woman of the world and realise that one day she will be sexually active but oh my goodness one of her messages talks about it being his choice if he uses a condom!! This, despite me talking to her many times about how important it is!
My question is......who can we speak to for advice? What can we do without encroaching on her 'human rights'? Should I take her to the GP? She just does not understand the possible consequences of her actions. :(
If you've read this far, then thank you so much.