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Everyone probably! Hope it all goes well - not long to wait now

How exciting!!

I have no patience so totally feel your pain. I know it's not easy but try to distract yourself as much as you can. Best of luck!! Do let us know how it goes Xx

Use this time of waiting to prepare yourself for more challenging waits - adopted kids challenge your patience beyond believe. Waiting for SW replies is nothing compared to the patience you need to parent a traumatised kid. I’m not being negative, just honest.

Hope you get the answer soon.

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We have waited five years with multiple failed matches littering our path here. At every stage there has been a delay for some reason or another and each time we're told that this is just how things work and to be patient and resilient and that the right match will come along and other similar banalities.

While the process does throw a random curveball occasionally that no one can predict, the vast majority of the delays have been down to the ineptitude or mismanagement of social workers. My advice would be not to take the excuses they give but to push hard each time. Take advice from Adoption UK's helpline but keep pressing social workers. They are overworked, poorly trained, poorly paid, demotivated and generally in a hard place but that is no excuse for getting things wrong repeatedly and not getting back to you on time as promised.