Hi all,
I'm being put forward to F2A with a 5 month old, and have been advised by my SW that I should be ready for very little info and a baby who has no experience of being in a routine of any sort...perhaps arriving in a week's time. Fair enough - they're coming from their 1st family and their care is currently lacking.
I've read very widely to prepare myself for adoption and everything tells me I should change as little as possible in the first weeks/months. But I know only very little about their current experience. And having always expected a very tiny baby through F2A, I'm not sure how to approach this with an older one who has more experience of the world, but coming straight from first family there is no foster carer as an intermediary to tell me about the likes/dislikes and routine (and who no doubt received specialised training on how to get fostered children into a routine etc)... And in fact they may come with little more than the clothes they are wearing and the name of their baby milk formula, so advice like 'use the same laundry detergent' and 'keep familiar smelling items close to them for the first few months' are likely to be little use...
Can anyone suggest good sources of information, guidance, support (books, websites, blogs, FB groups, online courses for foster carers etc) that I can turn to for ideas on how to settle a not-newborn baby into a placement immediately after leaving their first family?
Thanks in advance for any suggestions!