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Hi Nala.....just wanted to say hello & welcome !!!Not sure if I can offer anything specifically helpful - I'm sure others will - but I started off ordering a whole series of books, many you'll find on the Resources Thread.I particularly liked An Adoption Diary (can't remember author & too lazy to get off fat bum to get it ), but if you google that it usually comes up.....Others were books like The Adoption Experience Ann Morris, The Primal Wound (Nancy Newton Verrier), Raising Adopted Children (Louis Melina), Building the Bonds if Attachment (Dan Hughes) ....there are loads & I defo found it helpful at the start as a point for discussion and thinking with DH. I'm sure there must be other books which would you give both helpful advice, so check out that thread Best of luck and hope you enjoy the open evening xx

Hi NalaWe went to our open evening in August of last year and since then have been reading lots and its been very useful. Celia Foster 'Big Steps for Little people' is a book by an adopter who adopted 2 boys, its full of useful advice and insight and is a good one to start with.Also reading these boards is very useful and for us has remained a constant source of information, advice, guidance and inspiration.Hope the open evening goes well for you both.

good luck

Hi there we are still finding it scary. We have done all that and on WED this week it will be our first Home Study visit and we are bricking it lol.Similar situation to us we are male couple been together just about 5 years im 23 he is 33 that was a worry for us aswell that we might get turned down.We never had an information evening just a pack sent out in the post and a visit from someone to see if they thought we would be ok for prep course. I would advise READ,READ,READ the more you know the better. But remember if its just an Information evening this is time for YOU GUYS to get info thown at you and then sit down at the end of the night and discuss thats what i would sugest. Let us know how you get on.

Hi Nalawe are a same sex male couple in a civil partnership both 40, we felt just like you in the beginning, we started with our agency last July after spending nearly a year waiting around with a local authority and not getting anywhere, we have been with our agency since last July and we go for approval in a few weeks, we watched loads of stuff on you tube about having 2 dad's and an adoption story, there are some very good information videos on you tube about male same sex adoption, our agency also gave us lots of literature on same sex adoption which is really good and also there are some very good websites about same sex adoption and also on the baaf websiteall the best with your process

Hi NalaI remember the open evening well! We have been placed for 3years now but nearly gave up on that open evening as we found it all too "doom and gloom" if it wasn't for the vt at the end showing adults who had been adopted and were now talking about how positive it had been for them.I have recently found out from a sw friend that this is also known as the "clearing the weed from the reed" session.They want to show you the worst case scenario if that makes sense.To feel excited and terrified at the same time are the right emotions to have as you are entering the world of adoption with eyes and heart wide open.Good luckRegards Hubelly