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Stepping away from the boards
steps
August 31, 2013 11:30
All my children are now in their twenties. Our eldest two after many years of parenting from a distance, fighting for them to have their needs recognised, bailing them out, going to court, mental health meetings etc , now live a mile form one another in different supported housing ( one for those with mental health challenges , one for learning disabilities) and get their support from key workers . We help out with the odd food parcels and paying for a SIM only phone contract . One comes round a lot -for meals, to go to football etc The other speaks to us for a few weeks then falls out with us because we wont do what he wants us to do ( border line personality disorder) and so doesn''t see us for a few weeks .Our next has worked for 3 years and has just been sponsored by his firm to do BTch -he lost a lot of education when his b m died in his last 2 years of school and he did a lot of reconnecting with birth family ( its been positive for him)Our youngest is at uni and has worked all this summer in different jobs he has represented this country 5 times with his disability sports team. There are not many of his age who have been to the Caribbean 4 times, India nd Nepal before they were 20!we are grandparents, see our grandchildren monthly ( our son doesn''t live with their mum) There Have been so many ! and so many lows with our children .Amazingly we have kept many friends over the years ( just been on holiday with 10 who have known each other for 30+ years!) managed to have jobs that we have enjoyed and are still talking after 26 years of marriage!Its time now to move away from planet adoption into being parents of adult children -some of whom have vulnerabilities and challenges.Adoption has given us the family we could never had naturally and adopting older children has been both more challenging but also much richer experience than we would have expected.Thank you all of you for sharing our lives over the years I have been on the boards -may you all find times when you can exclaim ! as well as find strength to get through the very challenging times.
Teletubbies
August 31, 2013 12:12
Ah, thank you so much Steps - you give me hope for the future. I wish you well for everything life brings your wayMegahugsTeletubbies x
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homerton
August 31, 2013 13:35
Oh 1 will miss you take care all my luv homerton
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Larsti
August 31, 2013 13:49
Your posts have always been an inspiration to me Steps. And I well remember the support you gave me at matching stage. Thank you and God bless you and your family.Larsti x
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Changeisafoot
August 31, 2013 14:17
What a lovely post Steps. Wishing you and your family all the best.
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lilyofthevalley
August 31, 2013 19:24
Good luck for the future. Hope all goes well.Lily x
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Serrakunda
August 31, 2013 19:33
wishing you all the best for the futureSerrakunda and Simba
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greyspeckledhen
August 31, 2013 21:03
We'll miss you. All the best and thank you for your wise words and supportive posts. xxx
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pluto
August 31, 2013 22:50
Wishing you all the best, thank you for sharing your experiences.
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FIM
August 31, 2013 22:58
All the best to all the steps
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Johanna
September 1, 2013 09:53
All the very best to you and your family.It has been good over the years to connect with your story and see the ups and downs, celebrate the successes and commiserate with challenging times.Thinking of you with much respect and every good wishJohanna x
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true
September 1, 2013 11:21
All the very best to you and your family.because of the boards i stayed a night with you and had the craziest night of games and laughter - very theraputic balance to planet adoption
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Pear Tree
September 1, 2013 12:45
A little sad steps to waive goodbye from here but want to say how very much your encouragement and paths to where you are now have given hope to usAll the best
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suffolk puff
September 1, 2013 18:15
Come on.....How long did it take you to think up that thread title eh????How the heck can the rest of us follow that?and how the heck will the boards look without YOU?Well my good friend...always been so grateful for your wisdom, loving care and consistent encouragement...thank you.xxxenjoy your retirement!!!!!!as if people like you ever retire
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aprilshowers
September 1, 2013 23:38
well yes the title is a gooodunn...all the best wishes to you and yours.
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aprilshowers
September 1, 2013 23:46
I could have...drip drip drop little aprilshowers leaving the AUK boards, drip drip drop little aprilshowers off to puddles new.
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Jellies
September 2, 2013 13:54
It has all been said above - but I want to say a extra thankyou for always being so calm and inspiring. Enjoy your stepping away.Please read one last pm from me Steps.Jellies x
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mayan49
September 2, 2013 16:30
Wishing you and yours all good things in the years to come Steps.It has been good to share your journey here though now the path diverges. May your load be light and the path more pleasant on future travels.Much love Mxx
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